The Most Common Thing I Hear About Boudoir Photography

There’s a common theme amongst those who seek my services…

Almost every client says something along the lines of “I’m nervous, this is so outside my comfort zone!”

To that I say: “Perfect! It’s absolutely normal to be nervous, but I love that you’re trusting me with this step!”

I’m no stranger to the fact that this type of photography is more nerve-wracking than others. In fact, it’s actually why I chose to specialize in boudoir! I take great pride in being someone that people can trust with their most vulnerable side. Let’s deep dive on some of the different reasons why people are nervous about this!

1. You’re about to be in varying states of undress in front of a stranger.

   Absolutely 100% normal for this to make you nervous, and this is actually the main reason we include hair and makeup in our session fee! While your hair and makeup are being done, we’re all just sitting around talking about anything and everything. By the time you’re done in that chair, it starts to feel more like you’re hanging out with friends!

2. Society’s dumb standards make you think your body is not worthy of being shown.

   Re-read those first three words. Society’s standards are dumb. You can’t convince me otherwise. A bunch of now-dead old men created the beauty industry to make us all feel bad about ourselves so that we would use the products they sell and make them a ton of money. Do you really want to let the opinions of people who want you to feel bad tell you how to feel about yourself? No, damn it! Love yourself and believe that you are worthy of doing things that make you feel good!

3. You’re worried about where your photos will end up.

   We have a very strict policy of only sharing photos that we have signed consent for sharing. Even when people say they’re okay with us sharing anonymous photos, we tend not to based on the possibility of someone being able to identify you. We have even told people who originally were okay with sharing the photos that we won’t based on their career. If your job is one that would be affected by this (which it shouldn’t, but that’s a different story for a different day), I’m not taking the risk.

Additionally, you should definitely take great care in choosing your boudoir photographer! We couldn’t be happier that people trust us with the responsibility of guiding them outside their comfort zone! Take the leap!

5 Things You're Not Allowed to Say in My Boudoir Photography Studio

 The studio is a haven for positivity. As such, we don’t allow negative self talk! Here are a few phrases to go ahead and kick from your vocabulary before your shoot (or honestly just for your life, stop saying them).

1. “I hate my (insert body part here)”

   What does this phrase even do for you? Does it help? Does it change anything? Of course not. Stop saying it. You’re beautiful as you are, whether you see it or not. Hatred of any piece of you is too much hatred to hold. Let it go. Stop saying this.

2. “I don’t look like (insert anyone else’s name)”

   Good. I’m so glad you don’t. You look like you and you absolutely should look like you! I’m sure you’ve heard it a million times, but there’s only one you in this world. You’re not meant to be a replica of anyone else. You also have no idea who out there is looking at you and wishing they had some of your features. Stop saying this.

3. “I can’t-”

   Unless you’re gonna finish that sentence with “-believe I ever thought negatively of myself,” then don’t say it! If you want to do something and there’s no physical limitations that you can’t control, you can! Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear. Stop saying this.

4. Anything judgmental toward yourself or others

   I don’t hold the title of judge or Jesus, so don’t expect me to do any judging. I also don’t allow it in my studio. The only thing we allow judging people on is being an asshole. We have no idea what other people are going through, have been through, or will go through. We have no right to judge them for their lives. Stop doing this.

5. “I wish I was more like (insert someone else’s name)”

   You can be whoever you want to be. The only person who can change your life is you. There is so much good in this world, you can get yourself a slice, too! You can define your success. You can create a life that will make the old you say “I’m so happy to be me.”

This experience is meant to help you see yourself in a more positive light. Seeing yourself in beautiful photos is not the only way we do this. Practice removing these phrases and habits from your vocabulary now because you won’t be saying them when you walk through our door.